Wednesday, February 28, 2007

Tried and Tested


I have been thinking recently about a "fight" I had with one of my best friends a few weeks ago. I went into the discusion with an open mind and willing to work through any issues we had. But as the argument progressed, I began to realize that I was not going to make any headway. And it made me sad. I had the sudden feeling that this might be the end of a long standing friendship, and I couldn't even get her to understand my point. We talked for about half and hour, and I was almost in tears by the end. I was terrible. I have disagreed with my friends choices before, but nothing to the extent that my friend seemed to disagree with my choice in this matter.

I was particularly worried because I had been thinking that maybe my our friendship was on the way out, and that we were only friends still because we had been friends for so long. And that this was going to be the final blow.

I went to bed sad, and without telling Nik what had happened. That forboading feeling stayed with me the next day as well. I just couldn't get over it. When Nik finally returned home that night I decided to tell me what had happened. He was very understanding and helped me to understand my friends point a little better, but mostly he was outraged as well. Well, I was scheduled to see this friend the following week, and I wasn't sure if I could go.

I finally decided to give it a chance and see how it went. Surprisingly, nothing seemed to have changed. We both acted as we always do around each other. Frankly, I was surprised given the strong feelings expressed only a week earlier. But it was fine. All fine. We have enjoyed each other's company numerous times since the fight, and it is like it never happend. Now, I will admit that everytime I talk to her I have this thing in the back of my mind that reminds me of what happed, but I never let it get past a fleeting thought.

I am proud of both of us and our grown up abilities to put petty things behind us and move on, better for it. My advice, please try to remember how amazing relationships like this are and don't let your pride get in the way of a true friendship.

3 comments:

BoyWonder said...

I like the dove it really sets the mood for the post!

dixiechic said...

I've been in those type of situations a lot. I've found that if you can remain friends even after a nasty spill, then you come out even better friends than before. I'm glad you and your friend are still friends- it sounds like a friendship that's worth saving.

loudaisy said...

The best friendships are the ones where both of you know the value and strengths of the other. I am also glad you are still friends